I have started something I have never done before. I have started to go back and read my own posts. What can I say other than, do I ever like to ramble. I am going to pick out posts or bits of posts from the past that have special meaning to me. I will be republishing them. I have done over 95 posts, I have a hard time believing that but that is what the stats say. I am sure not many have gone way back when to read. In doing this it also allows me to see how I have evolved over the time of the blog.

Now let me make my thoughts on this very clear. Sympathy and pity have NO PLACE in my world. Sadness, OK. Sadness, only because we will be parted temporarily and will naturally miss each other.

With my memory these days I am never sure if I read this somewhere or if this is my own thought. I just know this helped me tremendously when a besty passed away. I loved him dearly and still do and always will. I hope I can find the right words to really express what I am trying to say.

Use your imagination and try to picture this scenario. By some chance your loved one get a chance to go on a fantastic voyage, say a yearlong cruise around the world. You know your loved one would have a fantastic time, the time of their lives. Lets further suppose, the trip has already been booked and nothing short of a miracle will stop them from going. How would you react?

Would you be there, being lovingly supportive in their preparations for the voyage? Hoping and praying only for their happiness and well being. It is a given that you will miss them. You are comforted knowing you will see them again and out of love, make the choice to put their well being ahead of our own. I mean it would be so unfair to hope or think they should miss out on such an opportunity just because we will miss them. We joyously help in their preparations spending quality, happy time before they leave. Tearful good byes are said hugs are exchanged and off they go.

Or, Even though you know the trip is booked and that they will have a wonderful time, do you react differently. Even selfishly, out of our own fear of missing them and being lonely, we feel miserable. We cry and maybe even try to talk them into canceling the trip, “you can’t go I will miss you too much”.

Through our own selfishness we want to deny them the trip the joy, the happiness that would come with it. They are leaving anyway, but we have turned what could have been a love filled farewell into a time of personal sorrow for ourselves. We realize our loved one may be nervous, apprehensive and a little scared, this is indeed something new to them a journey never taken before. It reaches the point of no turning back, the voyage must begin, and their departure is imminent. Can we make it a loving, “see you later” or must it be a painful, tear filled goodbye.

I used these thoughts on the passing of my dearly besty. I wished his joy and happiness until we meet again. Did that remove all the sadness no, but it definitely helped. With his passing he went on a wonderful voyage and I do miss him but I know I will be seeing him again

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Comments
  1. Moiz Damani says:

    Of course, anybody’s or anything’s passing (even your wee small birdie)is a sad occasion.

  2. Mustafa Hassan says:

    However, as I said before, we can’t know joy without getting real familiar with sorrow. Somebody much smarter and more eloquent than me said: Sorrows are our best educators. A person can see further through a tear than through a telescope.

  3. Safina abrar says:

    Master piece.
    Thinking of you often. Praying for you always, Wiseman.

  4. Salwa Sharif says:

    Allowing someone to ‘be there’ in the journey is pretty threatening for some….it was horribly threatening for me. Some folks are good at it and it comes easier to them. I’m not one of them. LOL I’m a ‘do it yourself’ kinda gal.

  5. Cindy says:

    Great points! I will be checking back here often!

  6. Dawar Khan says:

    According to translate.google.com:

    “first did not understand the promotion of sites on the Internet”

    Quite possibly more spam, of the ilk I endured when I first started blogging, but thankfully Akismet took care of most of that.

  7. Rajeev Kumar says:

    As with my post that you commented on earlier, my nature is to dig my heels and be pulled kicking and screaming into the next phase. I’m learning, slowly, but I am learning. It’s very disconcerting to not be in control and I think that’s the scariest part for me. Totally relinquishing control and letting God take over. As I mature I find a lot of comfort and looking back over my life. Every step I took reluctantly forward brought me to a beautiful place. If I had been allowed to stay stagnate due to my fear of the unknown, I would have missed out on such blessings. Every peak I reached, I would sit back and think “This is it. I have arrived.” but after enjoying it for a while, the Holy Spirit always nudges me onward. It is comforting for me to know that after the struggles, I always end up and a place even more wonderful than I was before. I hope I will find comfort in that when it my time get nearer. I must confess at this moment, death is a frightening concept for me, but your blog is inspiring and comforting at the same time. Maybe as a society we should quit referring to it as “death” For me that word implies finality, the end, and I don’t believe that’s what it is at all…

  8. Saima Saleem says:

    You just keep taking care of you, Miqdad.
    Rest when you need rest.
    But love always, eh?

  9. Hassan Aftab says:

    My best guess–I needed to read what’s been written in the past few days to get my attention. (it works like that for me you know)
    I find it difficult, some moments, to just let myself LOOK like it is.

  10. Sara Parker says:

    So your blog is heading towards 4,000 now. awesome. happy for you man

  11. Salman Ateeq says:

    I strongly believe that babies choose their time to come in, and their parents. Just as we chose our time to leave. Doesn’t mean we remember any of that once we’re here, hence our resistence!

  12. Kamran Jaleel says:

    So moving and true….

  13. Aisha Hasnain says:

    i was moved and thank you for making me understand how precious life is,however tough it is at times…

  14. Laura Quin says:

    as to the post… i do believe that we are more ‘in’ this life than just at the moment of birth. what logic would it make to think that the soul had NO connection with this world before fleshing it out?

  15. Kamini Khoso says:

    I suppose some people would call that morbid; I don’t. I’ve never looked at it like this though – as a normal reluctancy to go somewhere unfamiliar. It’s a comfort, really, to think of it that way.

  16. 14 comments!!! Overwhelming. Thank you

  17. Kareem Chandani says:

    Death is a highly sensitive topic, i’m glad you talk about it as if its destiny. pretty impressive 🙂

  18. Sajia Bawany says:

    Thank you for taking the time to answer justordinary’s question. I appreciate your willingness to share about your faith.

  19. Laura Quin says:

    Another query I often wonder. As your time on earth nears to a close, does one have visions?

    I would like to think one does, even if only in dreams.

    Which seems reasonably enough, especially when one looks back at one’s life and recalls how scared we were as children of dying and as we grew older and older, how the fear dissipated daily

  20. Javed Hashmi says:

    I am concerned for you because you write that you believe in God. That’s good. So do the devils and they’re scared.

    My concern is that you’re not scared and it isn’t because you have faith, but because you have no wisdom and the evil one has blinded you. You write about your faith, but exactly what is your faith? What are you trusting?

  21. Daniyal Ahsan says:

    Hats off, i would like to share you link on my blog, this post and the others are just superb 🙂

  22. Altamash Jiva says:

    Depressing but i love this post. honestly, need to print

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