Be A Man…

Posted: May 23, 2010 in Random Nooks
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This may sound strange but the past few days I have been thinking about my thinking, where do some of my thoughts come from. Now I am not talking about here on the blog, I believe I know that. I am talking in just every day, day to day stuff.

At times I wonder about the brain not functioning. It is there, about the size of a large walnut. It’s located on the right frontal side. This is I am told the part of the brain that we use for things like judgment, control of impulsive actions, actually quite a few things that sort of determine the person I am. Our brain is naturally contained within the confines of our skull. Being confined as such, there is no natural room for swelling or for such a thing as a tumor.

I am what I consider to be a deep thinker and not prone to acting impulsively but I have notice that now arising and will just have to be more aware.

Just realized something, if I write something stupid or ridiculous, I can just blame it on the non-functioning of the brain. lol

First off, I believe in equality in every aspect, no exceptions. OK, that is a given. But, my mind is wandering along the lines, is there or should there at least be one additional expectation of men. Maybe some of this stems from something I can remember my mother saying when I was young. You know how something’s just sort of stand out or stick in your mind, well this is one of those for me.

“Always be a man. A real man is a gentleman. A gentleman always shows due respect to others. Under no circumstances would a gentleman ever hit a woman or anyone smaller than himself. He will always stand up to protect and defend his loved ones, himself and anyone in need.”

There may have been more, that I don’t remember. I like to consider myself a gentleman. Have there been times in my life where I know I have fallen short of that definition, sadly yes. But, it is something I have tried to generally live my life by.

I know there is an equally good argument about the ladies standing up and maybe one day I will post my thoughts on that. But, today I am just talking about the men and specifically in the home, thoughts on other areas of life will likely follow.

I just can’t fathom how any male that sees himself as really being a man, “the man of the house” could use his possible greater size and strength to do anything but protect your loved ones. There is no circumstance, situation or event, as angry as you may be, that could justify violence against women and children. THERE ARE NO EXCEPTIONS TO THIS, NONE. It is time for all real men to stand up and be counted, show yourself as being a man. If anyone realizes in their hearts, changes could be make. How about starting that change today, right now.

As men, we do often possess a larger physical stature and even greater physical strength. Let’s use that in the way it was meant to be used.

I guarantee, I will never strike a woman or child.

I guarantee, I will never use my size to bully anyone, ever.

I guarantee, if we hear a noise in the middle of the night. I will be the one checking it out, baseball bat in hand.

I guarantee, if anyone says or does anything, I ever perceive as being done to intentionally hurt my loved ones. I will be in your face, immediately.

It is almost strange reading that last point. I know it to be true. The strange part is I am a very easy going relaxed kind of guy. Very little upsets or bothers me, say or do something to me and I will very likely just laugh it off. Do the very same thing to my family, different story all together.

A direct question to every male reading this. Are you a gentleman, a real man or merely an over sized jerk pretending to be a man? Give it some thought before you automatically reply.

  1. Abeeda Jilani says:

    Physical abuse to women is one of my hates. We had people living across the road for us at one stage and he used to beat up his wife. It was horrible.

  2. Irwin Karan says:

    Is that gutless of me not to stand up more because of being in fear of the repercussions on my family!!!!! What do you do?

  3. Jessica Krupali says:

    I fear is all too common in our society today. You speak of how the woman came to believe those beatings and all the mistreatment was what she deserved. How sad is that fact alone? She felt she deserved it!! No one and I mean no one ever deserves to be treated in that way, or even mistreated in anyway.

  4. Mel Carter says:

    Female–so I don’t get to answer the question……*sulking*

  5. Rajeev Kumar says:

    Are you a gentleman, a real man or merely an over sized jerk pretending to be a man? Brother my truthful answer would have to be that I’m an oversized jerk pretending to be a man,

  6. Sara Parker says:

    my friend it is so nice to hear from you. It has been to long. OK, lets face it I don’t really know you other than through a few messages here on the blog and a couple of emails. I feel it is likely you are being overly critical of yourself.

  7. Sabika Khan says:

    Female *** Exempted 🙂

  8. Altamash Jiva says:

    Quite true and astonishing. but i’m not counted….

  9. Sabika Khan says:

    Hi all,
    I guess I don’t get to answer the question either, but wanted to say something about Miqdad as someone who has known him personally for many years now. I’ve always said that of all the people I’ve ever met, he’s probably the only person I can truly call a gentleman. And it’s more than just his impeccable manners, but is about his genuine ability to take other people’s needs and thoughts into consideration. Yep, gentleman is the perfect word to describe our dear friend Miq.

  10. Ammar Haque says:

    I agree with the latter having now met him. =)

  11. Salman Ateeq says:

    For the sake of argument lets assume it is all true. I would then pose a simple question to you, what do you intend to do about it???

  12. Safina abrar says:

    I thank you for sharing this, it is a stark reality check for many of us.
    Have a good weekend, my friend

  13. I shall reply to all your comments via email. thank you 🙂

  14. Stella Rangin says:

    i’ll email you the answer, though i’m from the female gender !

  15. HopeShow says:

    Is this guy really decesed? He writes awesome. You ought to publish his stuff. See about adding it to

  16. Safina abrar says:

    Such a wonderful thing to remind ourselves of each day. Sometimes something happens to me and I make it so BIG…and then I try my best to put it in perspective. I’m not always that good at it. I’ll use your words in my head to help from now on.

  17. Laura Quin says:

    Hope you are doing well, miq. Please accept a big hug from your cyber-pal. (-;

  18. Sara siraj says:

    Impressive, it all over the internet now. popular man

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