I am sitting here thinking about my life and just life in general. Dwelling in the past is never a good thing, but it is natural to occasionally reflect back. You never want to get stuck in the “if only” mind set. We need to accept what has transpired in our lives and move on. But, I do think there is a healthy way we can look back at our “if only” times. If done correctly and in a healthy way, we can learn from these times.

I think we so often tend to sell ourselves short, not giving ourselves enough credit for who we are or what we do. I suppose it is a form of insecurity that can give us a defeatist attitude. There is no way I can get that or do that so why even try. This, no point is even trying attitude leads to the “if only” thoughts. Go for the gusto, give it a try, even if it doesn’t work out you at least know you tried.

I think this applies to every area of our lives and virtually every age in our lives. What are examples, let’s go right back to our school years. Suppose, say you had a huge crush on a particular girl but lacked the nerve to even ask her out. Who is to know she may have said yes, she may have said no and you are left with the “if onlys” which are magnified because you didn’t at least try.

Let’s move to career and job choices. Let’s suppose you have in your mind a dream job and suddenly it become available. But, you see the list of other candidates applying for the job. That defeatist attitude kicks in and you realize within yourself there is no point in even trying. I can’t match or compete with those other candidates. Later you face the “if only’s”. How do you know you wouldn’t have gotten the job if you didn’t at least try. If you tried and got your dream job, excellent. If you tried and failed well at least you know you tried.

I think often we settle for things in life, because it is the safe or easy thing to do. We so often don’t try just reaching for our dreams. Doing this may expose us, make us a little vulnerable, fears of failure or being embarrassed creep in.

I guess my whole point is, how do we know? How do we know if maybe we would have gotten that dream job? How do we know so very many things in life, if we don’t at least try?

It is time to quite selling ourselves short and reach for our dreams and goals. What is the very worst that can happen; you get turned down or get a no. At least you can rest easy knowing you tried.

Life is to be a positive wonderful thing and it truly is. Never sell yourself short, who knows reach for a star and you may just get it

  1. Jamal Panwahar says:

    don’t just blow your life away, but don’t give up all the goodness either. That’s what I say!

  2. Jessica Krupali says:

    Oh…my dream is to write a book..and that is exactly what I am doing before it’s too late!

  3. issabella says:

    Word Press Admin. Great!!!

  4. Sara Parker says:

    Whenever I feel that defeatist attitude I always repeat the phrase “imagine what you could do if you tried.” For some reason it inspires me to go after what I want without worrying about what ohers think or if it will be uncomfortable for me. It is amazingf what we can do when we actually try to go after the things we want.

  5. Martha Singh says:

    Live, laugh and love much.
    That’s my theory!
    So far, it’s done well by me…and those around me.

  6. Sameen Shah says:

    Miqdad, I am seeing this very theme in so many blogs this week. People..fellow bloggers…are dying to pursue big dreams but are also overwhelmed and afraid. I have a similar theme running through my life…almost a guilt complex around succeeding and pursuing my dreams and desires.

  7. ifs and buts are the hurdles we create ourself, many of us don’t even like to try.., there is a quote I use to motivate myself 🙂

    “The important thing in the Olympic games is not winning but taking part—- the essential thing in life is not conquering but fighting well.”

    🙂 good post once again!

  8. Catherine says:

    This is my first time visiting your blog, and this post really hits home for me right now. Perfect timing! Thank you.

    Bless you for helping others by blogging about what you’re going through. Best wishes to you! I look forward to reading much more from you.

  9. Rajeev Kumar says:

    I’m so glad I got to stop by today. Your posts are always so encouraging to me. You are a light in this world. Thank you! You’ve encouraged me in two areas.

  10. Kamini Khoso says:

    Hey Miq, Finally I got in to your site…….. At the very least, I have alot of information on the other, that I emailed to you that was coming up with your webpage. How very interesting……

  11. anika says:

    A very wonderful and encouraging post indeed 🙂

  12. Mel Carter says:

    I agree about selling yourself short.

    Interestingly, the best job I ever had was one way out of my league which I applied for out of complete desperation. It was in an industry I had a passing interest in but not one that was relevant to any of my experience. They wanted somebody more qualified than me and were offering double my salary. Thing was, it was the only job in the paper that week I could pretend I could apply for and I was so desperate to get out of the job I was in that I would get really down if I didn’t have any applications in. So I applied anyway. I was late for both interviews and still got the job. So at 28 years old, I went from the post of assistant gopher to marketing manager in a nationwide company. It turned my life around.

    So yeh… stars? Reach for ‘em.

    Wise words.


  13. Sara siraj says:

    Impressive, it all over the internet now. popular man

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